Flexible Living Room

Why am I so interested in flexible furniture? The gifts of the world are given to all. What I have doesn’t belong to me alone. My resources, including my home are not just for my own use. They are also for the use of the wider community – those working for justice and those in need.

Therefore, my home must not only serve my own needs, it must also serve the needs of others. It must be available for meetings or to house overnight guests, for example, or facilitate conversation and idea sharing. In order for my home to function this way furniture must be flexible.

But utilizing flexible furniture is useful in other ways too. Downsizing or moving to a new location is easy with flexible furniture. Flexible furniture adapts to new activities or new people without spending more resources ($) for new furniture – saving resources for other purposes. Flexible furniture with many uses is likely to last longer, more likely to be passed on to others and is less likely to end up in a landfill.

So here’s another idea for flexible living – instead of a large, heavy sofa or love seat try four movable chairs.

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Armless chairs that could be used separately or combined to create a sofa would be even better. Endless combinations become possible . . .

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InnerPeace – “Family Only” Idiocy

Photo R. Meshar

Educator Parker Palmer’s new book Healing the Heart of Democracy, had this memorable paragraph on socializing only with one’s family or the resistance to developing friendships in the public sphere:

“It is worth noting that the word private comes from the Latin privare, the root that gives rise to the word deprived. How ironic that the private life so highly prized by Americans is a life that the ancients regarded as a form of deprivation for grown-ups. As my Manhattan cabbie said, ‘If you’re with the same kind of people all the time, it’s like wearing the same suit all time – you get sick of it.’ What could be more stupefying for fully functional adults than to have nothing but a private life where one continually sees the same people and recycles the same experiences, attitudes, and ideas? No wonder the Greek word for a strictly private person was idiots, from which we get the term idiot, meaning someone who says or does stupid things.” (emphasis author’s, 95)

The next time someone brags that they’re a “private person” or are too busy with their family activities remember this.

This is not a matter of being introverted or extroverted – or the ability to be comfortable with many people rather than one or two people at a time. Either way, we need a wide variety of rich relationships with others who are different from ourselves and our families in order to be more of who we are, healthy and whole.

Our culture lacks this which is why so many of us are xenophobic (fearful of strangers). It is also why we too often become drama-focused and narcissistic. Committed and ongoing friendship with those who are different brings social, psychological, physical and spiritual health.

Stretch beyond your comfort zone. Invite someone new for a cup of tea. Meet someone new for a walk. Join a discussion group or book club. Teach English as a second language. Expand your support network of friends over family. You will learn more about who you really are.

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Car, Bus, Train or Plane?

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Recently I had to decide whether or not to fly, take the train or even the bus. I asked myself, “Which transportation option uses the least energy?”

There is a site that calculates train vs. plane emmissions per passenger (train is 73-91% LESS than plane travel in Europe – likely similar in the U.S. too). So safe to say, I should have taken the train! I will choose to take the train on my next trip.

What about you? Would you consider leaving your car at home and taking a bus or the train? Are those options even available to you?

Also, think about green options when choosing a hotel. Here’s the link to the post “Dallas Snow-Over” showing the green Element Hotel chain with a picture of a room like the one we stayed in.

We vote for a healthy, green planet with every dollar we spend and by the choices we make!

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Are Women Human?

On this International Women’s Day I will suggest Catharine MacKinnon’s book Are Women Human? And Other International Dialogues. Catharine MacKinnon, a Minnesotan, is an international lawyer at the Hague. Her background is impressive. However, last fall I heard her speak at the University of Chicago and I can attest that she is even more impressive in person.

“MacKinnon is the Elizabeth A. Long Professor of Law at the University of Michigan Law School.[3] In 2007, she served as the Roscoe Pound Visiting Professor of Law at Harvard Law School.[4] MacKinnon is a highly cited legal scholar.[5][6] She has frequently been a visiting professor at other universities and regularly appears in public speaking events.”

She writes of the necessity to define women’s rights and the systemic denial of them:

Regarding the Inter-American Convention on the Prevention, Punishment and Eradication of Violence Against Women (Convention of Belém do Pará) she explains it explicitly states that women have “The right to freedom from violence notably includes ‘the right of women to be valued and educated free of stereotyped patterns of behavior and social and cultural practices based on concepts of inferiority or subordination’ (9).

Further, “Women are half the human race. To put the individual accounts in context, all around the world, women are battered, raped, sexually abused as children, prostituted, and increasingly live pornographic lives in contexts saturated more or less with pornography. Women do two-thirds of the world’s work, earn one-tenth of the world’s income, and own less than one-hundredth of the world’s property. Women are more likely to be property than to own any. Women have not even been allowed to vote until very recently and still are not in some countries” (21, italics, author’s, stats from United Nations, The State of the World’s Women 1979 quoted in Burns H. Weston, Richard A. Falk and Anthony A. D’Amato, International Law and World Order 578-580 (1980) footnote 12, p 291).

She observes that the violence against women is a war and we need to recognize it as such.

“ To be on the bottom of a hierarchy is certainly different from being on the top of one, but it is not simply difference that distinguishes the two. It is, in fact, the lesser access to resources, privileges, credibility, legitimacy, authority, pay, bodily integrity, security, and power that makes the two unequal. The issue here is not entirely how to make access to those things nonarbitrary, because the situation we are confronting is anything but simply arbitrary. It does have an inner logic. The issue is systematic male supremacy and how to end it.” (74).

Women have the power to demand and make systemic change.

“The idea that these acts violate women’s human rights has been created by women, not by states or governments. National laws seldom effectively recognize that women are violated in these ways and sometimes even make them criminals for being raped (having sex outside marriage) or having abortions (resisting forced motherhood). Women across cultures have created the idea that women have human rights, refusing to believe that the reality of violation we live with is what it means for us to be human – as our governments seem largely to believe.” (181).

“Women have created the idea of women’s human rights by refusing to abandon ourselves and one another, out of attachment to a principle of our own humanity –  one defined against our context and our experiences.” (181).

Are women human? Not according to state, national and international laws that allow ongoing violence to women around the globe. Not as evidenced by the systemic abuses against women perpetrated by educational, religious, social, cultural, corporate and governmental institutions run primarily by men.

But we can and will change that. We are half the world.

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Into the Desert – Fasting for Lent

Do you fast during Lent? Here’s an idea. Instead of fasting from favorite foods, chocolate and other physical indulgences, why not fast from those things that destroy our hearts and minds?

Deep spirituality is about becoming whole. This is what it means to be “holy.” With this in mind why not –

  • Fast from gossiping about others.
  • Fast from self-talk that is self deprecating.
  • Fast from comparisons with others.
  • Fast from the “victim” mentality.
  • Fast from emotionally abusive relationships.
  • Fast from people who lower your self-esteem.
  • Fast from telling yourself that you’re not good enough, smart enough, capable enough.
  • Fast from thinking you need more _______ (fill in the blank).
  • Fast from negative thinking of any kind.

I’m fasting this Lent.  40 days is all it takes to re-train my mind to think differently!

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