Is Family Everything?

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You’ve probably heard the phrase “family is everything.” Perhaps you’ve even said it yourself. But stop and think. As DH said to a friend, “Are you on automatic pilot when you say this?”

The idea that “family is everything” is a common North American cultural fiction. “Family is everything” may sell Hallmark cards and wall plaques but it doesn’t reflect reality.

Most of us can think of at least one person, from our family of origin or even adult children, who has NOT treated us even remotely the way family members should treat each other. In this case family is most definitely not everything. Relationships with people who treat us badly should be minimized or even better, eliminated – genetic linkage not withstanding.

Conversely, you probably have someone in your life who has been very kind to you but isn’t directly (and who decides what constitutes “directly”?) genetically linked to you. Foster and work to maintain these kinds of relationships.

The truth is that if you go back far enough, everyone is family. We are all part of the human family. All are family. So categorizing people genetically is completely arbitrary.

Therefore, “family” really means anyone who cares for us, supports us, stands with us and is trustworthy. Likewise, we offer care, support and are trustworthy with them too.

Reassess. If “family is everything” then we must ask, “Who do we consider family?”

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6 thoughts on “Is Family Everything?

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  2. I was just telling somebody that most of the vilest acts upon me have been committed by those who are “directly” related to me. I am learning more and more that my God wants me to “love ye one another” and pray for those who despitefully use me. Well, that was the insurance he built into my faith to cover the infirmities of those related and unrelated to me by blood. Heck, Cain killed Abel–was family everything that day? Laban tricked Jacob, Joseph was abandoned by his brothers, Aaron undermined Moses–and on and on. I have probably known, even as a Christian, that family is definitely not everything since the start of Sunday Schoo.

  3. I was just telling somebody that most of the vilest acts upon me have been committed by those who are “directly” related to me. I am learning more and more that my God wants me to “love ye one another” and pray for those who despitefully use me. Well, that was the insurance he built into my faith to cover the infirmities of those related and unrelated to me by blood. Heck, Cain killed Abel–was family everything that day? Laban tricked Jacob, Joseph was abandoned by his brothers, Aaron undermined Moses–and on and on. I have probably known, even as a Christian, that family is definitely not everything since the start of Sunday School.

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