Other Options: Alternative Living Choices

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Our U.S., single-family-home lifestyle is not the only choice we have. In other times and places people figured out other ways to live peacefully, thoughtfully and in harmony with each other and with the land.

This is important to consider in light of the foreclosure crisis, the medical insurance crisis, and rising unemployment and homelessness among families.

We do have other options for living comfortably, collaboratively and ecologically. Unrelated families can live together sharing one large home for example. Younger students can live with older, retired persons allowing the abilities and interractions of both to enrich everyone. Young adults may share a home and pool their resources allowing one or more to finish their education while the others work – then reciprocate the next year in an intentional living arrangement.

In centuries past, the Beguines were a group of Catholic women who figured out how to share and collaborate with work and living arrangements while allowing each woman her own space. This is a model that might be useful with our aging population today.

Here’s an exerpt from a fascinating article in Commonweal on Modern Day Beguines. Read the full article in the May 22, 2009 issue of Commonweal entitled “Simple Lives A NEW BEGINNING FOR THE BEGUINES?” by Jean Hughes Raber.

“Recent news stories highlighting a growing trend among single women to form intentional communities along spiritual or religious lines make one wonder: Are we seeing the rise of a third wave of the Beguines, a Catholic women’s movement that started in the late twelfth century?”

“There [are] many parallels between the Beguines then and women now-women building safety nets to assist each other, living lives that made sense with less economic burden on the individual, a common spiritual approach to everyday life, and the need for meaningful, purposeful work,” says Morgana Morgaine, a nurse in Asheville, North Carolina, who has studied the Beguines for the past twenty-five years and, with five other women, plans to create a Beguine-inspired community.

Morgaine is not alone. She hopes to tour medieval beguinages in Europe and to meet modern-day Beguines in Germany, who live in an estimated twenty-five communities accommodating retirees, widows, divorcees, and single mothers. Many of the women work outside the community at day jobs, share housekeeping duties, and perform charitable works such as volunteering in hospices, tutoring children, and sheltering victims of domestic violence. Like their medieval counterparts, they agree to live simply, and this includes not only curbing consumption but choosing “green” and fair-trade products.

Morgaine first heard about the Beguines in an Albuquerque quilt shop twenty-five years ago: “I somehow got into a conversation about [how] living communally made so much sense economically and socially. I was talking about the wasted energy and monies of supporting a single household and the joys of sharing lawn mowers and laundry, and having more people to support and be supported by.” It turns out the shopkeeper had lived in Belgium, one of the great medieval Beguine centers, and recommended that Morgaine look into their history.
. . . Just as they responded so nimbly to social and economic forces in the twelfth century, the Beguines may offer a model well suited to the twenty-first. Again there are large numbers of single women facing life alone. Jobs are tight for younger women, and the costs of child care and fuel eat up a frighteningly large portion of their incomes. Baby Boom women approaching retirement are finding that their IRAs and 401(k)s won’t stretch as far as they’d hoped-and equity in their homes, another source of retirement income, is dwindling after the housing bust. Reductions in Medicare and the constant specter of Social Security cuts add to the economic uncertainty. And as women try to help elderly parents struggling to maintain the family home that has become burdensome and isolating, a communal living arrangement seems more sensible, economically and socially.

But those aren’t the only reasons the Beguines look attractive now. The beguinage fed body and spirit, and today’s Beguines also want a robust spiritual life. What has changed in the intervening centuries, however, is that those who call themselves Beguines today are not strictly Catholic, but include Protestants and sometimes non-Christians. Beguine communities now, as in the Middle Ages, must develop worship that will accommodate all their members. A California group calling itself the American Beguines follows the tradition of Taizé. Morgaine’s group in Asheville also wants a common spiritual space but has not yet worked out any specific devotional practice.

Despite the ecumenism of third-wave Beguine communities, the Beguine movement remains, at its core, essentially Catholic, emphasizing worship, the works of mercy, simplicity, and antimaterialism. In a way, the first-wave Beguines have lived on as missionaries across the centuries, inspiring women today to uphold the dignity of women and encouraging them to respond to economic challenges with faith, hope, and courage.

It is a legacy Catholics can be proud of.”

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Romantic “Porch” Before & After

What’s more American than the front porch? You may remember that I thought it would be nice to have a porch on the front of our townhouse. Well, we don’t have a front porch, but we do have a room that faces east at the front of our townhouse. It also has a large window that brings the outside in – much like a sunroom.

While it serves as an office, it would be nice to use it more often. It could be an afternoon reading space, a morning coffee space or an evening tea space.

Here’s my inspiration photo.

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What do I like about this porch? The chair and table are the only furniture. It’s simple. It’s relaxed. There’s not too much here. Flowers add a summery feel. I like the white and honey-color wood.

Giving our room a “sun room” feel will encourage us to use it more often – perhaps for evening tea in the summer or for morning coffee in the winter. Lighter, brighter, more casual decor will be the enticement. Again, I want to use items I already have.

I’ll only use what we already have. First a comfortable chair, side table and lamp for evening use. Next add a plant or two, a pillow & cotton throw in bright colors.

Before

After with cool summer colors –

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After with warm autumn colors –

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It’s coming along. Wicker baskets we had went a long way to organizing the office supplies. The pine table and green plants (moved from the living room) add warm color and life. The chair (my favorite and really comfortable) and lamp make a nice reading spot and the cotton rug feels good underfoot.

It still needs something on the wall above the desk, however. We’ll have to see what goes there . . .

Meanwhile, it’s brighter, more inviting. It’s a nice coffee spot. We’ve already been using this space more often.

Cost so far = FREE.

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Coat Check

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Fall is approaching. A good time to assess my front hall closet. How many coats and jackets do I really need? How much is enough?

Currently I have four coats & jackets that you can see here in the photo on the left. I have a white denim jacket, not shown here – so really five coats/jackets. I am checking resale shops for one mid-length, hooded jacket with a lining that could be used as both a raincoat, lightweight jacket and warmer jacket. Then I could donate my both the lightweight jacket and the raincoat.

In addition I have 2 pairs of winter boots and assorted gloves, mittens and scarves. How much is enough when so many have nothing? How much is too much?

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Introducing InnerPeace

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InnerPacific – the name of this blog – refers to our own interior depths. We may get caught in the waves of drama or anxiety on the surface, but we are more than this. We have great inner depth and wisdom that we can trust and tap into at any time.

It’s interesting that as a society we care that we and our children learn knowledge along with physical education and body health. But why aren’t we as concerned about education with regard to inner health and interior life? This is why InnerPacific is launching a series called InnerPeace.

Having good boundaries, healthy self-talk, meditation skills, knowing what values are important to maintaining personal integrity, having the resources to deal with a variety of people, being one’s own authority and trusting that – these skills bring inner peace.

Too many of us have grown up without these skills. Life becomes very difficult without good personal boundaries, being clear about which values are important or knowing how to communicate directly, but kindly with others. Drama saps our energy. Worry causes anxiety. This does not create a fabulous life – quite the opposite!

The InnerPeace series will focus on those topics that contribute to our inner peace and equanimity. When you are clear about who you are on the inside and what is important to you on the outside, inner peace results. This frees our energy and attention to focus on what is truly important in our lives.

This doesn’t mean life will be free of challenges or struggles. It won’t. Life is risky, by definition. But it does mean that we will be able to tap into the wisdom inside in order to discern more readily the best options available to us to meet those challenges. We can live in the depths of the ocean rather than be tossed by the waves.

Being able to live the life we have been given – as richly as possible – this is something we can learn to do.

Let your mind be like the clear water that washes over the stones.

You and I deserve this. Our children deserve this. Our world deserves this.

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Fruit Slump

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Here’s a rustic, autumn dessert from colonial times. It was created because it can make use of any fruit left in your fruit bowl at the end of the week. It’s similar to a cobbler.

I have made fruit slump for more than 20 years. My children (and their friends) grew up with this dessert. It takes a little time, but can be made on the stove top while the kids take care of the dinner dishes.

Here’s the recipe I have used all these years (Better Homes and Gardens, July 1988):

In a 10-inch skillet combine 3-4 cups of sliced fruits. Add 3/4 cup sugar and 2 tbsp. water. bring to boiling and reduce heat. Cover and simmer 5 minutes.

Meanwhile in a mixing bowl combine 1 cup flour, 1 1/2 tsp baking powder, 1 tsp sugar, 1/4 tsp cream of tartar, 1/8 tsp salt and 1/8 tsp baking soda. Cut in 1/4 cup butter or shortening until mixture resembles coarse crumbs. Make a well in the center. Add 1/4 cup milk all at once. Stir until dough just clings.

On a lightly floured surface knead dough just 10 times. Roll or pat dough to 1/4 inch thick. Using cookie cutters, cut into desired shapes or use a knife to cut diagonal lines creating diamonds. Drop cutouts onto hot fruit. Sprinkle with a mixture of 1 tbsp sugar and cinnamon.

Cover and cook 10-15 minutes until dumplings are done. To serve, spoon warm fruit and dumplings into serving bowls. Serve with light cream, whipping cream or a dollop of yogurt.

Consider using cherries, figs, plums, peaches, apples, pears, berries and especially a combination of fruits.

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