Half the Church or Half a Mind?

Half the Church: Recapturing God’s Global Vision for Women, Carolyn Custis James, Zondervan, 2010.

The title sounded promising. According to the inside back cover, Carolyn Custis James has an M.A. in Biblical Studies – but you would never know it from reading her book. I want to ask, “Does she have half a mind?” If this is a book about the subjugation of women in culture and in the church, this author reinforces all the stereotypes that subjugate women. To be fair, she writes from a patriarchal, privileged perspective herself, although she doesn’t acknowledged this in her book. From the non-gender inclusive language for God to the militaristic images she proposes for women, this woman is moving full speed ahead to make sure that women never experience equality, never mind respect or mutuality.

Her limited interpretation of Genesis leads the reader to believe that she has never read a single feminist interpretation of Genesis. Why not? How did this woman get her college degree much less a master in biblical studies????

Her biblical interpretation reads like an eighth grader’s. Really, if women and men are image bearers – as she writes –  why does she insist on using only masculine language for God? There’s an obvious contradiction here and a huge gap in her own training and understanding.

With militaristic imagery throughout – she perpetuates an oppressive, patriarchal agenda; “God created his daughters to be kingdom builders” (76). 

To her credit, she rightly notes that the Church’s focus on women as married and mothers only looks at thirty years of a woman’s life and ignores younger & older women, single women – half the population of women (103). A message of virginity and “purity” (whatever that means) for women leaves out women who are abused sexually (104). Here she demonstrates that she actually had access to statistics on women. Why then didn’t she reference statistics on American women’s pay inequality or lack of health care and health insurance compared to men doing the same job? This is pretty selective editing.

She notes early on that women suffering is a global phenomena, “The conversation about God’s vision isn’t American or Western or middle class. It is global. I knew that going in” (19). But evidently “global” doesn’t include Western European or U.S. cultures. For the remainder of the book she focuses on examples of discrimination against women from other cultures – not her own. This is because she is mistakenly convinced that our culture already treats women fairly. She writes, “What makes navigating life for women even more confusing is the fact that we don’t live in a patriarchal culture. The West is egalitarian. Women enjoy the same freedoms, education, career opportunities and potential for success as men.” (158). Wow. What country or culture is she living in?

She actually says this: “Does the gospel’s countercultural message only overturn degrading cultures like those of Reem and Meena, or does it also overturn our own more civilized but equally fallen culture . . .?” (Italics, author’s. 123) Hmmm . . . other cultures are “degrading,” ours is “more civilized”? Sorry, but other cultures are not failed versions of our own culture. Our culture is degrading to women in many ways. However, if possibly, James believes our own culture discriminates against women in numerous ways, she fails to list what they may be.

What has inspired her is Kristoff’s and WuDunn’s book Half the Sky highlighting the abuse of women around the world. Yet her own subjugation to patriarchy is evident and real (although she can’t see it) in the very questions she asked regarding her own life; “Do I plan to use my college degree or set it aside?” Really? Parents who work at home raising their children are not using their education?? She asks, “Should I be a stay-at-home mom or work outside the home?” (36). These questions are VERY life limiting. Very few men ever ask them and those who do are considered different from the culture. No one living in a non-discriminatory culture should have to choose between work and family. Children are the responsibility of both parents and the community. Society should support the work of caring for and nurturing children.

Similar to Half the Sky, James never goes any deeper in trying to understand the systemic issues at stake. On p.40 she clearly realizes that it is women’s own fathers, brothers and uncles who oppress and even murder women but she can’t see this for the systemic genocide that it is. This same genocide is at work in this country too.

The fact is that women earn less than men and are  more likely to live in poverty in our country – a country that refuses adequate safety nets for women and their children. Women are impregnated and raped against their will every day of the week right here in the USA. Violence against women in the U.S. – women are killed at the rate of at least 5,000 per year – seems to have escape her.  She isn’t safe going into a dark parking ramp at night any more than I am.

Lastly, her proposal of the “Blessed Alliance” is about everyone working together for God’s purposes (146-147). But here it reads more like an alliance with patriarchy, militarism and Western empire. She is aware of her “blessings” in life within her “civilized” culture – but completely unaware that these are actually unearned privileges (not really blessings) caused by benefiting unfairly on the coat tails of patriarchy, white privilege and imperialism. In reality these privileges come at a huge cost – one she refuses to acknowledge. Yet illuminating cultural injustice is the very task of the Christian theologian. The gospel preached by Jesus is subversive for every culture. Ours is not exempt.

However, those of you reading this can learn more about the unearned benefits and ongoing wealth transfer of white privilege here.

Yes, Carolyn is a fully subjugated, oppressed, product of her patriarchal culture. With this shallow, tiny, limited and oppressive view the reader will never capture God’s global vision for women.

I recommend that you read or watch something more worthwhile like The Boy Who Harnessed the Wind, World Class Theologians at Your Fingertips and How Much is Enough?. Then learn more about White Privilege.

Girl Forward

GirlForward.org

As women we have a right not to be inculturated in a view of women that limits life opportunities and options (e.g. only marriage and motherhood). We have a right to live lives not defined by men, corporations or those in power – arguably the same.

When women do better children and whole communities do better. That’s why the Chicago mentoring non-profit GirlForward is such a wonderful idea!

This non-profit can give us an idea of what we are meant to do in the world – especially those of us with education who don’t struggle everyday with poverty.

Here’s their mission and vision:

“Mission – GirlForward provides adolescent refugee girls with individual mentorship, educational programs and leadership opportunities, creating a community of support that serves as a resource and empowers girls to be strong, confident, and independent.

Vision – A strong, empowered, confident girl today will become an independent woman who can successfully support herself, her family, and her community.”

This is a another way to continue the formation of women who can work to change the laws and systems that discriminate against women.

Until women share equally in the leadership and opportunities of the world none of the human family can truly flourish.

Because national laws are always and everywhere created by men, Catharine MacKinnon writes in her book Are Women Human?

“State behavior that promotes and institutionalizes male dominance has been found to distinguish public from private, naturalize dominance as difference, hide coercion behind consent, and obscure sexual politics behind morality” (4). Stated another way “Men violently dominating other men for control of states is called war; men violently dominating women within states is relegated to peace” (5).

Reframe: the abuse of women, physically, emotionally, economically or socially is violence against women.

You may also like InnerPeace – Ending Emotional Abuse, Other Options: Alternative Living Choices and Solving the Problem of Poverty.

 

A Fine Balance

Photo A Fine Balance

Looking for a transformative novel in an exotic location? Consider reading A Fine Balance by Rohinton Mistry. In this compelling and complex tale, characters Dina (Dinabai) Dalal, her college student renter Maneck Kohlah, and two tailors Ishvar Darji and Omprakash create a family of support for a year, to survive the brutality from the Emergency in an unnamed city by the sea in India.

This story directly confronts the lie of Indira Gandhi’s regime – revealing its extreme violence and oppression against those at the bottom of the entrenched caste system. The characters deal with the struggles inherent in daily living of those living in poverty world wide.

With its up close view of daily life, this book also challenges the lie that the poor are lazy, shiftless, or simply make bad choices. Class structures discriminate in obvious ways in this story. The reader is invited to see that similar discriminatory classicism flourishes the same way in U.S. laws and culture. Our increasing income disparity is a testament to this.

To survive at all while struggling with poverty requires flexibility, creativity and incredible hard work. Those of us in the middle class would not survive one day in their world.

A Fine Balance offers the truth that it is only in relationship with others – especially with those who are weak and marginalized – that we will become the best of who we are, find support and ultimately life.

You may also like Amazing Performance, School of Essential Ingredients and Hand Wash Cold: Care Instructions for an Ordinary Life.

On Death and Dying

Photo R. Meshar

Statistically, people tend to die more frequently in the winter, especially during the holidays. Death isn’t the opposite of life, as our culture teaches us. Rather, death is a part of life. The opposite of death is birth. Both are a part of life. Unfortunately, our culture has an abhorrence of death and resists the process of death at every turn.

Rather than resisting death at all costs, perhaps we should think about what it means to die well? Catholics celebrate death very well. We know the importance of prayer, community, ritual, incense, candles, procession, music to help those who remain deal with the loss of someone close to them.

We also know that death is not the end. We believe that life continues beyond death. Consider the photo above as a metaphor for death. Is it a sunrise, a sunset or both at once?

The Japanese also have some beautiful traditional rituals surrounding death. Watch the Japanese film Departures to get a sense to the care and reverence given to those who die – and those who remain.

The book Gracefull Exits: How Great Beings Die by Sushila Black also talks about what it means to die well.

I spent time with a very close friend of mine who died too young from ovarian cancer. She was fully present to her life – even in her dying. I learned from her that if we live each day fully present, as if each day was our last, then we have learned to live well – and dying well is already incorporated into how we live.

Death changes us, but death is not the end. We are transcendent beings of love and depth. We exist beyond our death.

You may also like The Particular Sadness of Lemon Cake, Weekend Movie Ideas and Walk Out of the Tomb.

School of Essential Ingredients

The School of Essential Ingredients is an amazing book by Erica Bauermeister that tells a story of how we truly are healed in and by community. It is through being in healthy, supportive relationships that we gain the strength and wisdom to be all that we are truly meant to be.

“A “heartbreakingly delicious” national bestseller about a chef, her students, and the evocative lessons that food teaches about life

Once a month, eight students gather in Lillian’s restaurant for a cooking class. Among them is Claire, a young woman coming to terms with her new identity as a mother; Tom, a lawyer whose life has been overturned by loss; Antonia, an Italian kitchen designer adapting to life in America; and Carl and Helen, a long-married couple whose union contains surprises the rest of the class would never suspect…

The students have come to learn the art behind Lillian’s soulful dishes, but it soon becomes clear that each seeks a recipe for something beyond the kitchen. And soon they are transformed by the aromas, flavors, and textures of what they create.”

Great holiday reading. Check for it at your local library.

You may also like Babette’s Feast, Come to the Feast and Fill Your Life With Fabulous.