100 Years of International Women’s Day


Today is the 100th anniversary of International Women’s Day. Learn more about celebrating 100 years of women’s achievments here.

Tragically, today too many women around the world still can not vote, open bank accounts, study or get advanced education, do work of their choice, marry the person of their choice or live a life different from their culture’s expectations with dignity. Too many women are still stoned for adultery (as if men don’t participate), killed at birth for not being male, or treated as family servants and slaves. In too many places rape is still seen as something that women bring on themselves, rather than as a crime of violence, power, violation and abuse.

Read Lisa Shannon’s powerful and moving book, A Thousand Sisters documenting the treatment of women in the Congo, for example.

Throughout most of human history (until the last century) women have been considered property – owned by men. That is still true in many places today. In the United States, these same conditions have only been alleviated for women within the last century. I am keenly aware that only within the last twenty years would I have been allowed to attend a Catholic seminary in order to receive my M.Div. degree.

But huge changes have come in my lifetime. In the United States, since the 1960’s, women can now open bank accounts without their husbands or fathers co-signing. Their confidential medical files are no longer shared on their husbands’ requests. While the glass ceiling exists, more women continue moving into positions of authority in business and in politics. Meanwhile, men are becoming more involved in family life. Bringing balance to both genders is good for families and for society.

Women comprise more than half the world’s population. What is good for women is ultimately good for their children, their families, their communities and the world.

Home Prices Free-Fall

Welcome to the month of March and the middle of the home buying season. Having spent most of my adult life working in the marketing world I learned a few things. One of the things I learned is that the large population group called the “Baby Boomers” is like a pig in a python. They are so large (up to 76 million) that they dramatically affect products for every stage of life they move through. This includes housing.

You can read the details of why home prices will continue to free-fall here. Or you can consider that as the Boomers retire and downsize, the demographic group behind them is much smaller, earns far less and isn’t as interested in living in a large home in the suburbs.

Marketing forecasters have noted that young homeowners prefer urban living in order to develop richer relationships and social networks. A strong social network is an important asset in a high unemployment economy. Urban locations also have greater access to those jobs that are available as well as public transportation. Cars are a big expense today that not everyone can afford. Long suburban commutes take up time that young couples are not as willing to give up as their parents were.

In the end younger homeowners focus on developing relationships over acquiring “stuff” or square footage. This is a survival strategy as much as a lifestyle choice. But I think it’s a good one.

Not surprisingly, many retired Boomers often prefer urban areas for some of the same reasons, plus the added benefit of easy access to high quality healthcare.

In addition there is the general overall trend toward much smaller, easier living spaces (read more here, here and here).

Added to this is the nightmare title/foreclosure problems that exist with MERS (40% of mortgaged homes). It’s difficult to buy or sell if no one knows who owns the title.

Then we have the Too-Big-To-Fail banks’ total lack of interest in cooperating with consumers through loan modifications, but instead, a preference for foreclosures whenever possible. Why? Because these banks never experienced the consequences of their unethical and risky mortgage loan practices. Not only were bank executives never prosecuted, investors were actually made whole from all losses through the Republican-Democrat taxpayer bail-out. Can you say “good ‘ole boy network?”

Of course this was VERY expensive (trillions of dollars) and we, as taxpayers, will have to reduce our national spending to pay for it. One way this might happen is by the recently proposed elimination of the home mortgage tax deduction. Reduction in social security, medicare and education funding are other targets – not to mention any and all social safety nets for those in crisis – mainly women & children.

Longer term, this means big banks are highly motivated to continue selling risky mortgages, foreclose and resell any and all properties for as long as possible. No need to modify loans or stop shady loan practices. Where are the foreclosure fees or resale profits in that? Meanwhile, we the taxpayers, have already reimbursed them for failed mortgages – even as many of us are evicted from our homes. The rest of us are apparently in the wrong business! (Post Script added 3-2-11: But resigning ourselves to this outcome of events is not inevitable, only one choice, as Yves Smith writes about here.)

NET: This huge over-supply of super cheap homes will last decades.

This timely article provides another glimpse of the current state of the housing market.

All in all, you can readily see why suburban home prices will continue to drop, drop, drop for a LONG time.

So what will happen to all those 3 bdrm/2 bath McMansions? We haven’t seen anything yet.

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The Jewelry We Keep

It’s interesting to reflect on the jewelry we keep. Heart-shaped earrings and a “diamond” necklace were given to me by my oldest daughter when she was about ten years old. They always stay in my jewelry box. She also gave me a pink art pin that I keep. Her gifts remind me of her giving nature, how excited she was to give them to me and how fond I am of those memories of her from that time. If you have children you most likely keep any jewelry they gave you too.

One of the oldest necklaces I have is a silver cross given to me by my grandfather for my First Communion – but I have never worn it.

Photo Brighton.com

My friend T has given me many beautiful pieces of jewelry over the years. I often wear an elegant gold leaf necklace she recently gave me. But more often than not I wear the Brighton charm bracelet she gave me that was created to support Breast Cancer Research. It reminds me of her but also of women whose lives have been changed by this disease.

When they were young, my daughters each received a charm bracelet from me. Over the years many charms were added from various family vacations and trips.

Another good friend gave me a necklace hand-crafted with beach glass. This reminds me of our search for a beach house and a life on the beach. It also helps me remember to be grateful that I already live a “beachy” life. And still another pair of earrings made from Venetian glass, keep me close to a good friend when I wear them.

Of course I treasure my wedding ring. My husband has given me some other pieces I enjoy, including a black coin pearl necklace and earrings. At Gooseberry Falls he gave me earrings from local artists that still remind me of our time there.

Time and time pieces . . . Do you wear a watch? Most of my adult life I wore gold Citizen watch. But ten years ago, when it broke, I bought a replacement watch on clearance for $3.99 and it’s still going strong. I wear it every day. Interestingly, it stopped when we were in Costa Rica. Great – now I could finally get a better watch. But then, it started working once we returned home. Evidently I wasn’t supposed to keep track of time during our travels there – live in kairos time not chronos time. Lose track of time. Then we are truly present.

Amulets, crystals and charms always attract my attention. They often have rich symbolism and good energy. Do you wear crystals or stones for their energy or healing properties? What stones attract you? When do you wear them?

Do you ever purchase jewelry hand-made or crafted by local artisans?

Photo Bead For Life

Ten Thousand Villages sells Fair Trade jewelry that I like. If you have a store near you, support them or order through the link above in their catalog. Another option is Bead for Life jewelry hand-crafted by African women from recycled magazines.

What about simplifying my life and jewelry? As far as buying expensive jewelry, diamonds and most pricey gemstones are off my list because of all the pain and suffering of the workers, especially children, enslaved to mine them. Watch the movie Blood Diamond to learn more. Besides, I’d rather use the money as a donation to Mary’s Pence.

Looking through my costume jewelry, I donated everything not used that had no sentimental value. Again, the idea was to keep what works with clothes I wear now. In this way someone else can enjoy them.

What pieces of jewelry do you keep? What has meaning for you?

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A Bar at Home – Really?

Home Bar

It’s always good to question the culture we live in. Here’s a cultural critique.

My husband and I have noticed that for years now home builders have showcased homes with built-in bars, either on the main floor or in a finished basement. Also, furniture makers push “gathering height” tables and chairs in order to have “that bar experience at home.” Really?? Do I want to have a bar experience in my home? Yuck! Nauseating to even think about.

Furniture makers also feature beer can holders and even entire coolers built right into sofas and recliners. Open any Pottery Barn or Crate & Barrel catalog and find entire furniture and serve ware sections devoted to storing liquor, serving liquor and drinking in general. What’s going on? Are furniture retailers getting kick-backs from liquor manufacturers?

Are Americans so unaware that they simply plop down in front of the TV, requiring beer (or even soda) at their fingertips? Or worse, entertaining guests as if they were in a bar? Wow. This is a desirable way to live?

I don’t have a problem with an occasional drink or serving a glass of wine with dinner. But I do question home furniture and entire rooms designed specifically around drinking.

Question the culture. Who benefits?

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Simplifying My Wardrobe

Photo Savvima

In this year of not buying clothes, I’ve been trying to simplify my wardrobe. Much has already been accomplished. Clothes I rarely wore or that didn’t fit comfortably (read didn’t fit flatteringly) were donated. That freed up tons of space in my closet. Then I looked at color. Colors that worked together and looked good on me, I kept. Items in colors that worked with only one or two other items were banished from my closet.

Next I took a good hard look at maintenance. In the apparel industry almost all beautiful fabrics can be made to be machine washable. Even cashmere is now combined with cotton to retain the luxury feel but allow for machine washing. The same goes for wool and silk. So items that need dry cleaning or ironing are really not worth it for me anymore.

So a maintenance view of my closet allowed me to remove items that required dry cleaning or absolutely needed ironing. There are a couple of linen blouses that I sometimes iron. However, they still look good and are wearable even in the “washed linen” state – so I kept them.

Then I took a close look at blazers, dresses and skirts. Basically, I almost never wear them. Recently we went to a wedding – and even then I wore dressy wide-leg slacks. So blazers, dresses and skirts were donated. Without dresses and skirts you really don’t need hosiery, slips and high heels. If I don’t wear them why have them?

Where to shop? I look for local clothing stores and Fair Trade whenever possible. Trade Winds is a shop I like on Grand Ave. in St. Paul. Beautiful clothing AND Fair Trade. Nearby is Ten Thousand Villages – also Fair Trade.

(As the commenter below mentioned, consider consignment stores and reuse clothing stores. Encore and Elite Repeat in St. Paul carry a nice selection of current women’s clothing.)

Currently I don’t worry about purses or handbags. I simply don’t use them. It’s easier to carry a small wallet and my phone in my pocket. Ta da! That eliminates shopping or maintaining a wardrobe of purses.

Numerous pairs of shoes are off my list too. I really only wear the negative heel of Earth shoes because as a professor I am on my feet for three to six hours at a time. They keep my back feeling great. So great, in fact, that I wanted to wear them all the time. In the end about six to eight pairs of shoes (boots, sandals, oxfords, dress, mules and beach sandals) cover +95% of my life. Leather items will be the next place where I take a good, hard, look.

What did I keep were scarves. I adopted the idea of wearing scarves when I lived in Paris many years ago. French women make excellent use of scarves as they have high quality – but limited item wardrobes. Scarves are a great way to add the latest color or look to any wardrobe inexpensively. They can work as a necklace or around your waist or over slacks as a sarong. They protect my neck and shoulders from the sun in the summer. As a fair-skinned person this is VERY important. And of course if you saw my furoshiki post, you know that scarves can even be pressed into service as a shopping bag or evening bag.

The end result of all of this is that getting dressed has become really easy. I enjoy what I wear and feel good in it. It looks good too. Space and time have been added to my life. I like that!

Maybe my next post on simplifying my wardrobe I will post an actual picture of my closet. It’s getting to the point where I really could!

So this is what I’ve accomplished so far. These ideas work for me – but certainly won’t work for everyone. What do you think? Do any of these ideas work for you? Do you have other suggestions or ideas?

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