Poverty is a Luxury We CanNOT Afford

In this time of the Great Recession, if we are cutting budgets, saving more and using our brains, we should be realizing that poverty is expensive. In fact it’s way too expensive! We just can’t afford it anymore.

I have been reading about the poverty that our economic system creates – within our country and around the globe. Most of the poverty we have in the world is caused by human beings. Even hunger from natural disasters, such as famines, can be remedied with insurance for farmers, as we do in this country. Poverty is caused by our imperfect economic systems, laws, international laws, apathy and lack of political will.

I’ve also been thinking about the side effects poverty including growing up without good nutrition, without access to preventive health care, without stable income and within environments of violence and abuse – frequently from those who fear the poor.

Growing up hungry, or in a home where parents work numerous jobs, or where meals aren’t served regularly, makes it difficult for children to concentrate in school. It makes it difficult or impossible to do homework. It makes children more susceptible to illness and it takes longer to recover. While there are always those who are exceptions to these kinds of circumstances, they are exceptions.

Eating nutritious food costs more. Our country’s farm policies subsidize highly processed and prepared food high in corn sugar and fat (corn oil). By extension we subsidize corporations (Cargill, ADM, Kraft, McDonald’s, Coca Cola, etc.) who use these ingredients. We do not subsidize nutritious fruits and vegetables, but we could.

Owning a car is expensive and many of the poor can’t afford it. But, as a nation, we do not promote public transportation. This makes taking the bus time consuming and arduous for those who use public transport to get to work, buy groceries, do laundry or take children to school or the doctor. Imagine having to do all of your errands using the bus. Many do.

On the other hand imagine a city where buses have the right of way, can change stop lights and move people quickly. Cities in South America have just such a system. A subway above ground – if you will. Read Bill McKibben’s Deep Economy to see how efficiently and inexpensively it works using what we already have.

With regard to housing, more than one expert has observed that the banking industry could make far more money betting that sub-prime mortgage securities would fail than in the actual income from mortgages and servicing them (read here and here). The existence of the working poor and lack of affordable housing made it a strong probability that greedy elites drove the sub-prime mortgage securities market boom, short & crash and the resulting bank bail-out costing taxpayers trillions.

Living on a planet where so many are hungry certainly isn’t good for me as a person with wealth – and we are all rich, by two thirds of the world’s standards, if we live on more than $2 a day. Living in a different part of the city I experience an “unreal” reality. I do not see life as it really is for most human beings. My focus stays in my small world, acquiring things for my small life. My gifts remain useless to the larger community – since I do not connect there. I am separated in many ways from the larger human family. My heart is thus, hardened. My life and relationships are less full and rich than they are meant to be. Therefore, I become less human than I am meant to be. I become more self-centered and self-focused, the opposite of what it means to be a truly human person.

We simply can’t afford the luxury of poverty anymore. The costs are too high; the costs in human talents lost from both the poor and rich, the costs in emergency room health care and disease, and the costs in human physical, mental and spiritual disabilities of both poor and rich alike.

Paying a fair wage is the first step in eliminating poverty. There is something morally and ethically wrong with an economic system that allows some to accumulate great wealth when so many children go hungry – especially in this country. Accumulating wealth is fine – once the basic needs of everyone have been met. Life is risky. People get sick, encounter tragedies, have accidents. We need adequate social safety nets, including health insurance, affordable housing and education, for everyone.

Eliminating poverty brings advantages to everyone. Health care costs are reduced for all. The level of education of our entire population improves benefitting everyone. Consequently the skill level of workers improves along with entrpreneurism and employment. Crime perpetrated by both rich and poor declines. Abuse, drug use and human slavery by both rich and poor decline. Self-determination and autonomy through democracy increase. Political and corporate terrorism and despotism no longer appeal with their promise of providing food.

Watch the movie Made in L.A. to see a true, but powerful story about how three young women changed the apparel industry. We each can make a difference.

Eliminating poverty is not just a religious imperative – although it is that. It is a human imperative. Even avowed atheists like philosopher Peter Singer promote the importance of caring for everyone and the impact it has on the whole of human society. Read his book The Life You Can Save for an eye-opening yet entertaining discussion.

We’ve created our economic system. We change the way it works by adjusting laws, regulating it and measuring what we think is important.

Our economy exists to care for the needs of human beings – not the other way around. This economic system can be an engine for growth with values that promote the good of all. Inhuman values of greed and selfishness can be replaced with values of concern and cooperation. Standards of fair trade, fair wages, health insurance for all and care of the environment can be implemented. These are not mutually exclusive interests. In fact they work together.

We are all interconnected and interdependent. When the poorest among us do well – we ALL do better. For the health and well being of all of us, poverty is a luxury we can no longer afford.

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Yoga, Sexuality and Integrity

Photo A. Meshar

My Yoga study continues to reveal some underlying similarities between Christianity and Yoga. Which isn’t surprising since neither tradition emerged in a vacuum. They influenced and impacted each other over thousands of years.

Traditionally, in the Eight-limbed Path of Ashtanga or Raja (Royal) Yoga there are five yamas or abstentions and five niyamas or observances. These could be understood as life directives like the Ten Commandments. One of the yamas or abstentions is brahmacharya. The word brahmacharya is made up of two words: Brahma, the absolute, eternal, supreme God-head and charya, which means “to follow” meaning follow a “virtuous” way of life.

In the tradition of Yoga, brahmacharya refers to sexual abstinence or celibacy. Like the monastic traditions of Christianity, celibacy is practiced as a way of harnessing energy from the relationships of one’s sexual life and diverting it toward deepening one’s spiritual life. In the Yoga this was traditionally taught and practiced only with regard to men.

However, if we understand sexuality as a part of our wholeness as human persons we can begin to interpret this yama of brahmacharya more expansively. If God is present within each person, then gnostic dualism (anti-body or spirit is better) is death-dealing. God within each of us means that God hears what we hear, feels what we feel and suffers what we suffer. We meet God in and through our bodies, including our sexuality. God experiences the world through our bodies. To know this is to value ourselves and our relationships with others. It is to be honest and truthful about the role sexuality plays in our lives.

The same energy that brings sexuality enlivens our spiritual life as well. Learning to become open and intimate with another also prepares us for opening ourselves to life, reality or God. Using our sexual desires in a way that is life-giving for us and for others honors our value as persons. This means that we must be willing to take the time and care required to go more deeply into a relationship with someone else. This takes effort, time and commitment. It takes monogamy. It is impossible to have the time or energy to maintain deep, committed, thus honest sexual relationships with more than one person at a time.

It also requires developing good boundaries. We develop enough self-understanding to know our own values and choose actions that respect those values. We have the ability to consistently choose those actions and responses that will keep us in a calm and abiding place. We learn to do this within the context of our own sexual relationships and within other relationships too. Simultaneously we respect others’ boundaries.

Brahmacharya in my own life means honoring my own sexuality. For me, this means choosing to be in a marriage because the relationship is life-giving and brings out the best of who I am. Earlier in my life I understood the vow of marriage (“until death do us part”) to mean staying in a marriage no matter what – even if it was abusive or soul-killing. I thought that breaking the vow meant breaking with one’s personal integrity. But gradually, I came to see that this vow is made by two parties and therefore must be honored by both parties. One person can’t honor the vow alone. When the other party is no longer committed to the vow, or was never committed, then the contract is broken.

Regardless, to remain in sexual relationships that hurt, abuse or cause sadness is to dishonor not only ourselves but others as well. This is a profound distortion of what sexuality is meant to be in our lives. We are all interconnected. Brahmacharya dictates that we seek sexuality in relationships that leave us feeling loved, valued and cared for.

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Irish Heritage

Top o’ the mornin’ to those of Irish heritage as well as everyone who celebrates with them.

Depending on how the day goes we may celebrate by cooking up a little corned beef and cabbage along with some Irish soda bread. We’ll see . . .

My heritage includes both Irish and German cultures. As the joke goes, “It’s good to be Irish and German, as long as you get your sense of humor from the Irish and your work ethic from the Germans – and not the other way around.”

This joke is funny because it alludes to the dark side of being Irish. Too many Irish families struggle with alcoholism and addiction. These families will often describe themselves as “close knit” which in reality means exclusionary. Caught in this clan from birth, family members can’t see the devastation brought about by binge drinking at family functions over decades. They can’t see the pathology of having a social life that never extends beyond family members.

While many families exhibit some dysfunction, these families exhibit a dysfunction that is toxic and extreme. There are identifying behavioral markers. In toxic families (not only Irish, but others too unfortunately), the family becomes the only social network. Family connections are self-contained, limiting and dysfunctional. I’ve observed family members who even idolize older members who exhibited addictive behavior, participated in tax evasion, fraud, abusive behavior, even pedophilia!

Other related characteristics among family members include symptoms of anxiety, depression, eating disorders of all kinds, migraines and other stress related disorders.

Outsiders need not apply  – another marker. I remember hearing statements like “I only allow family to babysit my children” as if other people are incapable of taking proper care of children or are never trustworthy. What fearful values regarding relationships with others are being taught here? Further, this results in the children having even less contact with others beyond the family. Over decades, I remember only a handful of outsiders ever attending most family functions. This is social “incest” at its worst.

Individual autonomy is feared. Those in the family who move into the wider community or develop autonomy may be shunned – however considering the poor relationships that are being ended, that’s not necessarily a bad thing. I speak from personal experience. I was lucky. I escaped.

Members of toxic families rarely contribute to the wider community. They don’t have the social connections to do so. Even it they try – generally their personal boundaries are so poor that others will limit contact with them. In toxic families, everyone is way into everyone else’s business. Communication is not transparent – but secretive. Sarcasm and double meanings are rampant. Family secrets abound.

At its core, all of this behavior comes from living out of a stance of fear. Members fear that they could never survive outside the “family” as unfamily-like as it is. The paradox is that their acceptance within in the group is not unconditional or loving – but highly conditional as demonstrated by those who are shunned.

While the inclination to alcoholism (and other addictions) is genetic, it is also an attempt to avoid the underlying pain and suffering from the extreme dysfunction. Sadly, too many families that socialize around binge drinking exhibit many of the above markers and characteristics.

Our families are meant to be places where we learn about inclusion and acceptance. In healthy families we learn how to develop loving relationships so that as adults we can move out into the world and create similar relationships with those who are not part of our families of origin. In my own life, because I was forced to leave home as a minor, I was fortunate to have close contact with many other healthy families throughout my life, who demonstrated for me what a loving, healthy family dynamic was.

This St. Patrick’s Day, may those who are caught in a family web of toxic dysfunction experience a desire to take the first step toward change.

To all of you whose life work is to help create healthy family systems I say “go raibh maith agat” or thank you.

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Mardi Gras!

Today is fat Tuesday, otherwise known as Mardi gras. This is traditionally a time of celebration before the forty days of Lent begin tomorrow. Costume balls, masks and parades come to mind for many of us – especially if you live anywhere near New Orleans.

I’ll be celebrating today. Will you?

Lox, Stock and Bagel

Last Sunday my husband prepared toasted bagels with cream cheese, thinly sliced salmon, sliced sweet onion and – wait – capers! It was divine.

It was snowing outside so we decided to have a lazy morning lounging in bed, reading the New York Times online, drinking coffee and enjoying crunchy bagels. It was heaven.

Celebrating the Sabbath should definitely include OpEd pages, book reviews, steaming hot coffee and fun conversation. How much better can it get?

Well it actually did get better. The next day we had mouthwatering buckwheat banana pancakes for breakfast. You can see them here. He does know his way around the kitchen.

Let it snow, let it snow, let it snow . . .